Overcoming Loneliness

Moving to a new place, especially as part of a Permanent Change of Station (PCS), can feel isolating at first. Here are some strategies to help you overcome loneliness and build connections in your new community: 

1. Get Involved in the Military Community

– FRG (Family Readiness Group): Join your unit’s FRG or similar groups to meet other spouses and families. 
– Classes and Events: Many installations offer free or low-cost classes and social events through their MWR (Morale, Welfare, and Recreation) programs. 
–Volunteer Opportunities: Volunteering can help you connect with others while giving back to your community. 

2. Explore Your Surroundings

– Take time to discover local attractions, parks, and businesses. 
– Attend events in the area, such as farmers’ markets, festivals, or workshops. 
– Use apps like Meetup or Eventbrite to find social or hobby-related gatherings. 

3. Prioritize Hobbies and Interests

– Join local clubs or groups that align with your interests, such as book clubs, fitness classes, or crafting groups. 
– Consider taking a class to learn a new skill or pursue a passion. 

4. Connect with Other Spouses

– Reach out through social media groups for military spouses in your area. 
– Host a small gathering, like a coffee morning or potluck, to build relationships. 
– Participate in base or post spouse events if available. 

5. Build a Routine

– Having a daily routine can bring stability and comfort in an unfamiliar place. 
– Include activities that encourage social interaction, such as going to the gym or joining a class. 

6. Seek Support for Mental Health

Feeling lonely is natural during transitions. If it feels overwhelming, consider talking to a counselor or using mental health resources available through the military, like Military OneSource. 

7. Focus on Self-Development

– Use this time to focus on personal growth—read, take online courses, or start a project. 
– Journaling or practicing mindfulness can help you process emotions and stay positive. 

8. Include Your Partner and Family

– Share activities with your spouse or family, such as exploring new restaurants, hiking, or attending local events. 
– Make your new house feel like home with familiar items, decorations, and routines. 

9. Engage with Pets

If you have a dog, visit local dog parks (e.g. Heritage Dog Park or Riverside Dog Park) or pet-friendly events to meet other pet owners. 

10. Stay in Touch with Friends and Family

– Regularly call or video chat with loved ones to feel connected. 
– Invite friends or family to visit your new location when possible. 

Did you try any of these ideas? Do you have any other suggestions? Feel free to comment below. I’d love to hear your personal experience of how you were able to overcome loneliness after you moved to a new place! If you’re going through this transiation phase right now and you can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel, let me assure you that your life will look complete different in couple weeks. I didn’t want to believe it either, when I went through my first experience. But life WILL change! It happens sooner than you think. BUT: you gotta put yourself out there. Don’t be scared to open up to new possibilities – try out different things and let life do the rest.

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